I John 3:18

All original content copyright Jessica Nicole Schafer, 2007-2016.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

MOTHERING A SON.



IF SOMEONE WOULD'VE TOLD ME TEN YEARS AGO THAT I'D HAVE A SON, I'D LAUGH AS LOUD AS I COULD IN DISBELIEF. I GREW UP WITH A SISTER (EIGHT YEARS MY SENIOR) AND KNEW NOTHING ABOUT BOYS. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THEM? HOW DO YOU TAKE CARE OF THEM? WHAT CAN I OFFER A LITTLE BABY BOY? AND YOU KNOW WHAT, I STILL WONDER SOMETIMES. BECAUSE HONESTLY, I HAVE LEARNED MORE ABOUT GOD IN THE PAST THREE YEARS THAN I THINK I EVER HAVE. THIS LITTLE BUNDLE OF JOY TEACHES ME MORE EVERYDAY THAN I EVER COULD HAVE DREAMED OF LEARNING. WHEN I'M TRYING TO "TEACH" HIM, IT OFTEN HAPPENS THE OTHER WAY AROUND. THE SECOND I TOOK A PREGNANCY TEST WITH HIM, I KNEW I WAS HAVING A BOY. AS DARRYL WAS OVERFLOWING WITH EXCITEMENT AT THE FACT THAT HE WAS GOING TO BE A FATHER, I TOLD HIM, "IT'S A BOY"...AND HE THEN MENTIONED THAT I COULDN'T KNOW, YOU DON'T FIND OUT UNTIL SEVERAL MONTHS ALONG.....AND I SAID, "NO, GOD HAS A SENSE OF HUMOUR....I DON'T HAVE THE SLIGHTEST IDEA ABOUT RAISING BOYS, AND I KNOW IT'LL BE A BOY....SO START THINKING OF NAMES". PRAISE THE LORD FOR LITTLE BOYS. OF COURSE I'D LOVE TO HAVE DAUGHTERS, BUT IF GOD CHOOSES TO JUST GIVE ME ONLY BOYS, I'LL LOVE EVERY MINUTE OF IT. :)




I ALSO REMEMBER SAYING TO MY HUSBAND, "WELL, I'M OFF THE HOOK!". I WAS SEVERAL MONTHS PREGNANT, AND I JUST FELT RELIEVED THAT I DIDN'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE STRESS OF RAISING A DAUGHTER, OF WORRYING ABOUT WHETHER I'M TEACHING HER THE RIGHT THINGS OR NOT. MY HUSBAND ASKED WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT. I REPLIED, "WELL, IT'S NOT A GIRL, SO ALL THE PRESSURE'S ON YOU!! HE'LL LEARN HOW TO BE A MAN FROM YOU, SO IT'S NOT GOING TO BE SO BURDENSOME ON ME". HOW SILLY OF ME TO THINK THAT, FOR EVEN A SECOND!!! HE QUICKLY RESPONDED, "YOU'RE NOT OFF THE HOOK AT ALL. OUR LITTLE BOY WILL NEED YOU TO MOTHER HIM, AND HE WILL NEED YOU TO LOOK AT TO KNOW WHAT A GOOD WIFE AND MOTHER ARE SUPPOSED TO BE". SUDDENLY, ALL THE PRESSURE CAME RIGHT BACK ON MY SHOULDERS. THANK GOD FOR HIS GRACE, AND FOR THE FACT THAT OUR BABIES ALL TURN OUT FINE, OFTENTIMES IN SPITE OF THEIR MOTHERS AND FATHERS!! :)

1 comment:

Brea said...

Yeah, I've got brothers ... and all my friends growing up were guys ... and all my friends' siblings were guys ... and I was the biggest tomboy ever. I was so relieved to find out that our first was a boy. Then I found out Evie was going to be a girl. I wasn't quite sure what I was going to do with her. Come to think of it, I'm still not quite sure ... :)

Your boy is getting so BIG! And freakin' cute!! I just love those curls. I always wanted curls. But I didn't get any curl-love. Seriously.

~Brea