I John 3:18

All original content copyright Jessica Nicole Schafer, 2007-2016.

Thursday, January 8, 2009

*IT’S SO EASY TO FORGIVE MOST OF THE TIME, ISN’T IT? I MEAN, ONCE YOU GET PAST THE HURT, THE ANGER, THE BETRAYAL…….AS LONG AS THE PERSON WHO WRONGED YOU SHOWS TRUE REMORSE. AS LONG AS THEY REALLY ARE SORRY, FORGIVENESS IS A LITTLE EASIER. BUT WHAT ABOUT THE SECOND TIME, THE THIRD, FOURTH, FIFTH? JESUS, IN ESSENCE, SAID FORGIVE “SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN”….AND THAT IF WE DON’T FORGIVE, WE WON’T BE FORGIVEN.

AND HERE’S WHAT I’VE BEEN LEARNING. I HAVE BEEN HURT DEEPLY MANY TIMES (HAVEN’T WE ALL??!)….BUT THIS PARTICULAR TIME HAS BEEN BY THE SAME PERSON, OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN. AND I HAVE CONTINUED TO FORGIVE. HOWEVER, THIS PERSON HAS NEVER, NOT ONCE, ADMITTED DOING ANY WRONG TOWARDS ME. AND I DOUBT THIS PERSON EVER WILL. THAT’S HARD. FORGIVENESS IS A TAD HARDER WHEN SOMEONE WHO IS A CHILD OF GOD, WHO KNOWS BETTER, CONTINUES TO HURT YOU….WITHOUT EVEN SEEING HOW HURTFUL THEY’VE BEEN. WHAT I HAVE DONE; I HAVE FORGIVEN. (AND HONESTLY, IT WASN’T THAT EASY….I STRUGGLED FOR A WHILE WITH IT.) BUT I REALIZED THAT I BOTH WANT TO, AND AM CALLED TO. AND I PRAY FOR THIS PERSON. AS HARD AS THAT IS SOMETIMES, I DO. AND IT IS HARDER ON SOME DAYS. ESPECIALLY WHEN I REMEMBER THE WRONG HANDED TO ME, OR WHEN THIS PERSON HURTS ME ALL OVER AGAIN. BECAUSE ONE THING I’VE LEARNED IN LIFE IS THAT USUALLY WHEN PEOPLE ARE JUST DOWNRIGHT HORRIBLE, NASTY, HATEFUL, SELFISH, RUDE…(AND I’M TALKING ABOUT CHRISTIAN PEOPLE, THE ONES WHO TRULY KNOW BETTER…)…WHEN PEOPLE EXHIBIT THOSE BEHAVIOURS…..THEY ARE HURTING. THEY ARE MISERABLE, AND THOUGH THEY MAY NOT EVEN KNOW IT, THEY WANT OTHERS TO FEEL THAT SAME HURT. (I'M NOT SAYING THAT WE'RE TO ALWAYS EXCUSE HURTFUL BEHAVIOUR.....THERE COMES A TIME WHEN WE DO FORGIVE....YET THROUGH THAT FORGIVENESS, WE STILL HAVE TO CREATE DISTANCE BETWEEN THOSE WHO ARE HARMING US OR OUR LOVED ONES. I DON'T BELIEVE WE'RE CALLED TO BE DOORMATS.)

FORGIVE SOMEONE WHO WRONGED YOU TODAY, WHETHER THEY ASK FOR IT OR NOT. YOUR SPIRIT WILL REST MUCH BETTER. DON’T EXCUSE THEIR BEHAVIOUR, BECAUSE IT DOES NEED TO STOP. BUT FORGIVE THEM. BECAUSE YOU WANT TO, YOU NEED TO, AND MORE THAN THAT….JESUS SAID TO.

AND IF YOU’RE THE ONE WHO NEEDS TO ASK FOR FORGIVENESS, (WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE, TOO….) DON’T LET PRIDE STOP YOU. DO IT QUICKLY, DON’T WAIT. GO AHEAD AND GET PAST YOURSELF AND THINK OF HOW WE’RE CALLED TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER.

***EDIT: I JUST WANTED TO PUT YOUR MINDS AT EASE....AFTER READING THIS, IT SEEMS THAT I MAY BE TALKING ABOUT MY HUSBAND. NO, IT'S NOT HIM. HE'S A WONDERFUL HUSBAND. AND WHO IT'S ABOUT ISN'T REALLY IMPORTANT....I WROTE THIS TO SHARE WHAT I'VE LEARNED OVER THE PAST SEVERAL YEARS ABOUT FORGIVENESS. I HOPE IT HELPED SOMEONE.

5 comments:

krystle said...

gee, i wonder who your talking about...hmmm;) i love your "edit". i don't think anyone will think you're talking about darryl haha.

Andrea said...

I hope it's not me. :( I would never mean to hurt you. I have been so busy running around this past couple weeks (our car broke down so relying on family). LOVED the card!! Love you.:)

Fruitful Vine said...

Hi
I saw you stopped by my blog today. I appreciate the comment you made. Indeed people should learn to deny themselves and love the way Christ loves.

Re:this blog post-I pray that God's healing would flood your heart my sister as you continue to walk in forgiveness toward the offender(s).

Tiaras and Tantrums said...

- lovely words and oh so true! forgiveness is something I work on everyday!

Tess said...

I am so grateful for your blog of forgiveness. It spoke directly to my heart concerning a very hurtful incident.
I want so much to just love this person (a close family member) but there are times when I feel as though they are just pushing against me with all of their might. I really do try to overlook things, but then when others from outside the relationship start to notice it...well, it's harder. For me hurt goes directly to anger, which doesn't help I know.
I have already forgiven her, even though she doesn't know it. Now I know that I will have to be the one to reach out to her *again* to *fix* things that will not be actually fixed. But it is worth it to humble yourself and not to have regrets later on.
Thanks again for your help and sincerity.
Tess (pinkgrandma@comcast.net)